Basic Counseling Skills
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  • A. TECHNIQUES
  • Pattern of Sessions
  • Active Listening
  • Body Language
  • Asking Questions
  • Paraphrasing/Tone
  • Summary
  • Note Taking
  • Homework
  • Goodie Bag/Fun Stuff
  • Technique References
  • B. THEORIES
  • Client Centered
  • Holistic/Biopsychosocial
  • Strengths Based
  • Cognitive/Behavioral
  • Solution Focused
  • Existential Therapy
  • Letting Go
  • Theory References
  • C. SAMPLE SESSIONS
  • 1. Client Centered Counseling
  • 2.&3. No Show/Cancellation
  • 4. Strengths Based
  • 5. Cognitive Beh. Counseling
  • 6. Holistic Health Counseling
  • 7. Solution Focused
  • 8. Existential Counseling
  • 9. Becoming Unnecessary
  • D. SELF HELP
  • Journaling
  • Mood Mapping
  • Whole Health Check In
  • Community Resources
  • Ten Things I Like About Me
  • Common Lies We Tell
  • Goal-Setting
  • A Why to Bear a How
  • Happy People
  • Self-Help References
  • E. CONTINUING EDUCATION
  • F. SITE MAP
  • G. CONTACT ME!
  • H. READERS' CONTRIBUTIONS
    • Addiction and Sleep - Jessica S
    • Alcohol Counseling - Carol G.
    • Depression and Addiction Rehab - Katherine C
    • Quit Smoking and Alcohol Rehab
    • Reducing Stigma - Patricia S.
    • Suicidal Thoughts and Alcohol Abuse - Julia W
    • Recovery Village - William B.
    • Bereavement Counseling - Sally W
    • Personality Traits - Sally W
    • 3 Solutions to Worst Fears - Paige M
    • 30 Min Reduce Anxiety - Paige M
    • Restorative Power of Arts & Crafts - Sally W
    • 3 Ways - Rid of Sunday Scaries
    • Conquer Fear of Flying - Sally W.
    • Document Anxiety through Journaling - Sally W
    • Career Options - Sally W
    • School Counselor ToolKit - Serena K.
    • Psychology Degrees - Lindsay F
    • Depression and Addiction Rehab - Katherine C
    • Diagnosing Depression - Melissa M
    • PostPartum Depression - Tracey F
    • Assisted Living Options for People with Disabilities
    • Wheelchair Home Safety - Michael M
    • Cerebral Palsy Resources
    • Counseling and Persistent Pain - Sally W
    • Mesothelioma Guide - Corine F.
    • Mesothelioma Resources
    • Finding Start Up Success - Eva B
    • Cleaning House for Better Health - Cheryl C.
    • Destress/Clean Home - Cheryl C
    • Financial Stress - Sally W.
    • Financial Debt - Sally W
    • Be Happy - Hazel G.
    • Gut Health & Mental Health - Sally W
    • How Having a Skincare Routine
    • Counseling the Impoverished - Sally W
    • Conquering Interviews - Eva B
    • Daily Journal Routine - Paige M
    • 4 Journaling Tips for Beginners - Shristi Patni
    • Drug Dangers - Rebecca P.
    • Recall Report - Laura P.
    • Living Mindfully - Mollie Wilson
    • Cognitive Behavioral Therapy - Sally W.
    • Couns. Resources - Tim C.
    • Practical Financial SKills - Johanne H
    • Nutrition to Help Anxiety - Sally W
    • Retirement Career Change - Sally W
    • Managing Phobias - Sally W
    • Healing Power of Pets - Sally W
    • Geriatric Counseling - Sally W
    • Counseling Seniors with Anxiety - Sally W
    • Senior Resources - Claire S.
    • Addiction and Sleep - Jessica S
    • Better Sleep - Better Health - Cheryl C
    • Treating Insomnia - Sally W
    • Tuck Sleep - Kellen S
    • De-Fogging Brain - Sally W
    • Recovery from Sports Injury
    • Improving Mental Clarity - Sally W
    • Indoor Air Quality Can Affect Mental Health - Sally W
    • Stress on Health - Sally W.
    • Stress Management - Sally W
    • Suicidal Thoughts and Alcohol Abuse - Julia W
    • Summer Side Gigs for Teachers - Joyce W
    • Tobacco in 2017 - Mary G.
    • Take Control of Your Life - Dorothy Watson
    • No More Winter Blues - Rufus Carter
    • How I Put Anxiety Attacks on Pause
    • 8 Effective Tips for Improving Mental Health - Camille Johnson
    • Manage And Reduce Stress For Your Employees With These Tips - Rufus Carters
    • Moving Forward When Grief Intrudes in Your Life - Camille J
    • Working Remotely - Emma Grace Brown
    • Unlock Greater Confidence - Rufus Carter
    • Coping With a Mid-Life Crisis - Rufus Carter
    • 6 Self-Care Tips - Laurie Abner
    • Help a Loved One After the Loss of a Spouse - Rufus CarterNew Page
    • Relocating After a Tragic Loss - Lucille Rosetti
    • Guidelines for Teens Who Want to Thrive as Entrepreneurs - Lucille Rosetti
    • 5 Common Lifestyle Habits That Can Cause Skin Damage - Andrew Mark

Strengths Based Counseling and Positive Thinking / Learned Optimism

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Strengths Based Counseling (link to Positive psychology: the science of happiness and human strengths By Alan Carr) focuses on what is going right in a person’s life.

The counselor and client work together to find past and present successes and use these to address the challenges being faced. Assets identified may include:

1. Physical Health, 2. Social Supports, 3. Emotional Resilience, 4. Spiritual Outlook, 5. Vocational/Financial, and 6. Intellectual/Giftedness.

You can use the Whole Health Inventory to identify these.

Positive Thinking or Learned Optimism is about learning a new perspective. Instead of projecting what can go wrong, the client is encouraged to focus on what can go right – since it’s all speculation anyway. Key questions are “What can I learn from this?” and “What good can come from this?” In this way, a negative situation is not a total defeat – it’s a temporary setback, a learning experience.

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"Founder": Martin Seligman (1942 - )Habits of thinking need not be forever. One of the most significant findings in psychology in the last twenty years is that individuals can choose the way they think. - Martin Seligman

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Practitioners of these particular modes of counseling assert that we should be:

• as concerned with strength as with weakness

• as interested in building the best things in life as in repairing the worst

• as concerned with making the lives of normal people fulfilling as with healing pathology

• outspoken about the research supporting a Strengths Based approach, and the anecdotal evidence of people who practice Strengths Based or Positive Thinking / Learned Optimism. Constructive or hopeful people fare better in almost all aspects of life.

Some will argue that the Law of Attraction is a current version of Positive Thinking. Others put LOA in a category on its own.



Techniques

There are a variety of Strengths Based techniques. You could do a whole health inventory to look for strengths to build on, and use these to address a particular problem or challenge. The question becomes, “What resources does the client have to address this problem?” For example, a single father wants to return to school. His resources may include OSAP and a bursary, the in-laws for child care, public housing for lower rent, and used books to save money.

Another example. The challenge is the family matriarch who is 90 and wants to stay in her home, even though she no longer drives – plus she has no family in town. What are the supports for her? It could be that a member of her church will take her to and from church for Sunday service and the mid-week meeting. She can take a taxi to get groceries and her pharmacy will deliver her medication. For Christmas the family has decided to buy her the services of a cleaning lady once a month. Home care will come in to assist her with her personal care.


Two Helpful Easy Exercises

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THE TEN THINGS I LIKE ABOUT ME!

This is strengths based exercise for self-esteem building - you simply ask the client to come up with ten things s/he likes about her/his self. Counselor Joan did this with client Mary in Sample Session Four.

In counseling we spend so much time on what isn’t working and neglect what is working. When we feel more empowered by taking a strengths based approach we are better able to take on our problems.If the client is really struggling with ideas, you can ask, “What would your friend _____ say if I asked her/him?” Then you can ask about the possible response of partner, parents, and – as a last resort – good things you know about the client.

I make it into a poster and give copies to the client to place where s/he can see it
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GRATITUDE JOURNAL

Another worthwhile undertaking is the “Gratitude Journal”.

Part One – Day End

At the end of the day the person is asked to list four things that she/he is grateful for, that went well. And they must always be stated in the positive. Here is what I might write down even on a day where lots of things have gone wrong:

• Really good cup of coffee at 10 am

• Rode my bike to work, there and back

• Watched a you-tube video about a cat that made me laugh and laugh and laugh

• Hubby made a great salad at suppertime

A person doesn’t have to limit the list to four things – I aim for ten.

Part Two – Day Beginning

Over their breakfast your client can be encouraged to write down four things she/he has to look forward to today. Again, here is how my list might look even if my day is likely to be very stressful:

• Am going to watch a movie tonight

• Will have peanut butter and banana sandwich at lunch – yum, yum

• Ellie (a colleague) and I will have a lunch time walk

• Can listen to classical music today while writing (overdue) reports.

At the end of Session Four, Joan makes this suggest to Mary.

When I give a journal to clients I include an unusual pen – just to jazz things up a bit!

Further Reading and Videos

Books

“Learned Optimism: How to Change Your Mind and Your Life” by Martin E. Seligman, Simon and Schuster, 1998

"Positive Psychology: The Scientific and Practical Explorations of Human Strengths" by C.R. Snyder and Shane J. Lopez, SAGE, 2006


"Attitudes of Gratitude" by M. J. Ryan, Red Wheel, 1999

Articles

Strength-Based Approach to Therapy: How It Works, Examples, & What to Expect
Originally published on September 15, 2020 
https://www.choosingtherapy.com/strength-based-approach/


Videos

Here is an entertaining presentation on Strengths Based psychology.


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4lNC6--JuoY

Have some fun with this one! It’s about Learned Optimism.


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T6loWc55YTM&feature=related

This one on Gratitude is a little less entertaining.


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RT2vKMyIQwc


Let me tell you the secret that has led me to my goal: my strength lies solely in my tenacity. - Louis Pasteur
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