Basic Counseling Skills
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  • C. SAMPLE SESSIONS
  • 1. Client Centered Counseling
  • 2.&3. No Show/Cancellation
  • 4. Strengths Based
  • 5. Cognitive Beh. Counseling
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  • 7. Solution Focused
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  • 9. Becoming Unnecessary
  • D. SELF HELP
  • Journaling
  • Mood Mapping
  • Whole Health Check In
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  • Ten Things I Like About Me
  • Common Lies We Tell
  • Goal-Setting
  • A Why to Bear a How
  • Happy People
  • Self-Help References
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The Ten Things I Like About Me

“The Ten Things I Like About Me” is one of a variety of fun exercises where we practice positive self talk and build our self esteem. Alas, so much of counseling and self-help time is spent discussing the things that are going badly. What about the things that are good or great?!

In this example, I am going to use myself because frankly I too need to practice positive self talk and build my self esteem.


The Ten (Or More) Things I Like About Me

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By Jan Carrie Steven – 2008

1. Really nice person – will go out of my way to help others.

2. In good shape because I eat good food and exercise.

3. Can do a variety of kinds of work very competently – counseling, preaching, flowers, animal care, and more.

4. Good wife – I try to do (at least) one nice thing and say one nice thing to my hubby everyday.

5. Good enough mother. I pray for my kids every day and contact the ones who live away at least once a week.

6. OK daughter. I call home regularly and have taught my kids to respect their grandparents.

7. Model employee. I always do extra and am very concerned about my co-workers as well as my clients.


8. Excellent student. I am always learning something new – on purpose.

9. Have a four inch smile. In fact, I once won a smiling contest.

10. Generous. I support many good causes with my time, talent and treasure and prayer.

11. Determined. I have experienced my share of disappointments but I always come back for the count.

12. Whole hog. I don’t do anything by halves. If I am going to do something, I jump right in.

13. Vegan, which is gentle on the earth as well as the other-than-human animals.



Now It's Your Turn
The Ten (Or More) Things I Like About Me

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Peacing It Together

Once you have written this out, I want you to add a picture of something that makes you feel happy just to look at it. I have a passion for peace hence the very real photo of the lioness, Little Tyke , with her friend the lamb, Becky.

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Next, I’d like you to print off a few copies, put each in a plastic sheet protector, and put it in places where you will see it. In the front of your organizer, beside your bathroom mirror, on the fridge, etc. You and I – we cannot build a healthy home on muck. We’ll sink. We need a solid foundation – knowing that we are loving and lovable, unique and yet an integral part of this world.

Further Reading and Video

Books

“The Everything Stress Management Book: Practical Ways to Relax, Be Healthy, and Maintain Your Sanity”by Eve Adamson, Everything Books, 2001

“Boost Your Self-Esteem” by John Caunt, Kogan Page Publishers, 2002

Video

Build positive self esteem with “the Red Sweater Lady.” Watch the series of short helpful clips.

http://www.ehow.com/video_4400727_improving-self-esteem.html


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