Basic Counseling Skills
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  • A. TECHNIQUES
  • Pattern of Sessions
  • Active Listening
  • Body Language
  • Asking Questions
  • Paraphrasing/Tone
  • Summary
  • Note Taking
  • Homework
  • Goodie Bag/Fun Stuff
  • Technique References
  • B. THEORIES
  • Client Centered
  • Holistic/Biopsychosocial
  • Strengths Based
  • Cognitive/Behavioral
  • Solution Focused
  • Existential Therapy
  • Letting Go
  • Theory References
  • C. SAMPLE SESSIONS
  • 1. Client Centered Counseling
  • 2.&3. No Show/Cancellation
  • 4. Strengths Based
  • 5. Cognitive Beh. Counseling
  • 6. Holistic Health Counseling
  • 7. Solution Focused
  • 8. Existential Counseling
  • 9. Becoming Unnecessary
  • D. SELF HELP
  • Journaling
  • Mood Mapping
  • Whole Health Check In
  • Community Resources
  • Ten Things I Like About Me
  • Common Lies We Tell
  • Goal-Setting
  • A Why to Bear a How
  • Happy People
  • Self-Help References
  • E. CONTINUING EDUCATION
  • F. SITE MAP
  • G. CONTACT ME!
  • H. READERS' CONTRIBUTIONS
    • Addiction and Sleep - Jessica S
    • Alcohol Counseling - Carol G.
    • Depression and Addiction Rehab - Katherine C
    • Quit Smoking and Alcohol Rehab
    • Reducing Stigma - Patricia S.
    • Suicidal Thoughts and Alcohol Abuse - Julia W
    • Recovery Village - William B.
    • Bereavement Counseling - Sally W
    • Personality Traits - Sally W
    • 3 Solutions to Worst Fears - Paige M
    • 30 Min Reduce Anxiety - Paige M
    • Restorative Power of Arts & Crafts - Sally W
    • 3 Ways - Rid of Sunday Scaries
    • Conquer Fear of Flying - Sally W.
    • Document Anxiety through Journaling - Sally W
    • Career Options - Sally W
    • School Counselor ToolKit - Serena K.
    • Psychology Degrees - Lindsay F
    • Depression and Addiction Rehab - Katherine C
    • Diagnosing Depression - Melissa M
    • PostPartum Depression - Tracey F
    • Assisted Living Options for People with Disabilities
    • Wheelchair Home Safety - Michael M
    • Cerebral Palsy Resources
    • Counseling and Persistent Pain - Sally W
    • Mesothelioma Guide - Corine F.
    • Mesothelioma Resources
    • Finding Start Up Success - Eva B
    • Cleaning House for Better Health - Cheryl C.
    • Destress/Clean Home - Cheryl C
    • Financial Stress - Sally W.
    • Financial Debt - Sally W
    • Be Happy - Hazel G.
    • Gut Health & Mental Health - Sally W
    • How Having a Skincare Routine
    • Counseling the Impoverished - Sally W
    • Conquering Interviews - Eva B
    • Daily Journal Routine - Paige M
    • 4 Journaling Tips for Beginners - Shristi Patni
    • Drug Dangers - Rebecca P.
    • Recall Report - Laura P.
    • Living Mindfully - Mollie Wilson
    • Cognitive Behavioral Therapy - Sally W.
    • Couns. Resources - Tim C.
    • Practical Financial SKills - Johanne H
    • Nutrition to Help Anxiety - Sally W
    • Retirement Career Change - Sally W
    • Managing Phobias - Sally W
    • Healing Power of Pets - Sally W
    • Geriatric Counseling - Sally W
    • Counseling Seniors with Anxiety - Sally W
    • Senior Resources - Claire S.
    • Addiction and Sleep - Jessica S
    • Better Sleep - Better Health - Cheryl C
    • Treating Insomnia - Sally W
    • Tuck Sleep - Kellen S
    • De-Fogging Brain - Sally W
    • Recovery from Sports Injury
    • Improving Mental Clarity - Sally W
    • Indoor Air Quality Can Affect Mental Health - Sally W
    • Stress on Health - Sally W.
    • Stress Management - Sally W
    • Suicidal Thoughts and Alcohol Abuse - Julia W
    • Summer Side Gigs for Teachers - Joyce W
    • Tobacco in 2017 - Mary G.
    • Take Control of Your Life - Dorothy Watson
    • No More Winter Blues - Rufus Carter
    • How I Put Anxiety Attacks on Pause
    • 8 Effective Tips for Improving Mental Health - Camille Johnson
    • Manage And Reduce Stress For Your Employees With These Tips - Rufus Carters
    • Moving Forward When Grief Intrudes in Your Life - Camille J
    • Working Remotely - Emma Grace Brown
    • Unlock Greater Confidence - Rufus Carter
    • Coping With a Mid-Life Crisis - Rufus Carter
    • 6 Self-Care Tips - Laurie Abner
    • Help a Loved One After the Loss of a Spouse - Rufus CarterNew Page
    • Relocating After a Tragic Loss - Lucille Rosetti
    • Guidelines for Teens Who Want to Thrive as Entrepreneurs - Lucille Rosetti
    • 5 Common Lifestyle Habits That Can Cause Skin Damage - Andrew Mark

The Ten Things I Like About Me

“The Ten Things I Like About Me” is one of a variety of fun exercises where we practice positive self talk and build our self esteem. Alas, so much of counseling and self-help time is spent discussing the things that are going badly. What about the things that are good or great?!

In this example, I am going to use myself because frankly I too need to practice positive self talk and build my self esteem.


The Ten (Or More) Things I Like About Me

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By Jan Carrie Steven – 2008

1. Really nice person – will go out of my way to help others.

2. In good shape because I eat good food and exercise.

3. Can do a variety of kinds of work very competently – counseling, preaching, flowers, animal care, and more.

4. Good wife – I try to do (at least) one nice thing and say one nice thing to my hubby everyday.

5. Good enough mother. I pray for my kids every day and contact the ones who live away at least once a week.

6. OK daughter. I call home regularly and have taught my kids to respect their grandparents.

7. Model employee. I always do extra and am very concerned about my co-workers as well as my clients.


8. Excellent student. I am always learning something new – on purpose.

9. Have a four inch smile. In fact, I once won a smiling contest.

10. Generous. I support many good causes with my time, talent and treasure and prayer.

11. Determined. I have experienced my share of disappointments but I always come back for the count.

12. Whole hog. I don’t do anything by halves. If I am going to do something, I jump right in.

13. Vegan, which is gentle on the earth as well as the other-than-human animals.



Now It's Your Turn
The Ten (Or More) Things I Like About Me

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Peacing It Together

Once you have written this out, I want you to add a picture of something that makes you feel happy just to look at it. I have a passion for peace hence the very real photo of the lioness, Little Tyke , with her friend the lamb, Becky.

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Next, I’d like you to print off a few copies, put each in a plastic sheet protector, and put it in places where you will see it. In the front of your organizer, beside your bathroom mirror, on the fridge, etc. You and I – we cannot build a healthy home on muck. We’ll sink. We need a solid foundation – knowing that we are loving and lovable, unique and yet an integral part of this world.

Further Reading and Video

Books

“The Everything Stress Management Book: Practical Ways to Relax, Be Healthy, and Maintain Your Sanity”by Eve Adamson, Everything Books, 2001

“Boost Your Self-Esteem” by John Caunt, Kogan Page Publishers, 2002

Video

Build positive self esteem with “the Red Sweater Lady.” Watch the series of short helpful clips.

http://www.ehow.com/video_4400727_improving-self-esteem.html


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